After my last breakup, I knew my ex would be back. It was only a matter of time. In fact, I warned him as he was breaking up with me that he would regret it.
I even put a timeline on it. I estimated to myself that it would take about 6 months to change his mind. I guessed he’d be back by the end of summer.
My friends even began taking bets on how long it would take. There was no question in any of our minds that he would return.
I’m not psychic, but it happened. He came back. In the last weeks of summer, he returned and admitted he still loved me and was wondering if it would be stupid to try again. But, I had moved on to someone else who is a much better fit for me. I haven’t looked back since.
Most women in Ex Boyfriend Recovery don’t have that confidence in their ex’s return from the get-go. So how did I know he would be back?
There are several signs that my ex was exhibiting that made me confident that he would return. And that’s what we’re going to talk about. What are some signs that an ex will come back?
We’ll talk about those in a second.
Here’s everything we are going to cover today:
- What Makes A Man Come Back After A Breakup?
- How To Know If He’ll Come Back
The first thing I want to touch on is something I mentioned already. When my ex ended things with me, I didn’t beg, I didn’t plead. I was upset, but I didn’t want him to think I lived only for him, so I never begged him to reconsider. Instead, I became a bit of an ice queen. He wasn’t the first ex to point out how fast my warm disposition changed once broken up with. Most men who have hurt me are now scared of me.
I admit, yes, sometimes being cold makes me feel powerful when I’m trying so hard not to be vulnerable. But more than that, It’s a matter of confidence.
Now, I know how amazing of a person I am. I’ve learned what a good, giving girlfriend I am. So when an ex wants to leave the relationship, there’s always a part of me that wants to laugh. This is because I know exactly what they are going to be missing out on. And I am confident that all that’s needed is for some time to pass so they can realize what they gave up. I kind of treated him with an “I’m amazing, so you’re crazy for letting me go” attitude.
It’s natural to lose some self-confidence after a breakup. Having someone reject you and tell you that they don’t want you any more would bruise anyone’s ego. Do what you can to try to put on a confident face, f you’re in a situation with an ex and you still need to interact. Throw yourself into No Contact
. Start making real changes in your life. This will not only put on the facade of confidence but will make you happier and more confident.
What Makes A Man Come Back After A Breakup?
As I mentioned earlier, men and women process things in different ways after a breakup. Men tend to make the decision to break up quicker. Once the relationship is over, they embrace the single life faster.
Women are more likely to mourn the relationship, but over time heal. Women also tend to take more time when making the decision to leave the relationship.
It is absolutely essential that you give your ex time to process the breakup. He may need to get the single party lifestyle out of his system. After he does, he’s going to be faced with the reality of his decisions.
It’s not something you will want to dwell on. Dating around may be fun for a while. But when he’s sick in bed with the flu with no one to take care of him the way you used to, he’s going to feel pretty alone
Casual relationships are nothing and in the long run. They will bring him nothing but emptiness.
Giving him the time away from you is the first step, no matter how counter-intuitive it may seem.
With time comes the need for space.
Time will do nothing if he does not have the chance to miss you. That is why No Contact is essential. It kills two birds with one stone. Make him face the repercussions of his actions. Disappear from his life entirely.
This time and space away from you will naturally make him miss you. It will give him a chance to forget the negativity of the breakup. It will naturally overwrite those memories with positive ones.
If you do it correctly, No Contact actually kills THREE birds with one stone. because the third thing on my list of what makes an ex come back is change.
Every relationship has issues. Something that will really get your ex’s attention is if he sees genuine change in you. He has to see a difference between who you were and who you are now.
The best thing you can do during
is to focus on positive change, not for your ex, for yourself. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life, so you might as well make yourself a priority. Right?
I know many women on this journey are resistant to it, but I can’t suggest it enough.
Have the confidence to know that you are one of a kind. And make it known that you aren’t waiting around.
Knowing I was seeing other people is what finally got my ex to admit his residual feelings for me. By the time he did though, it was too late. We call it moving on without moving on. It is a very powerful tool. And there is a reason that exes tend to come back as soon as we are over them.Source